Change

Call Yourself Out With This Q

Hello Beautiful.

I read the most striking truism today: we attract what we feel worthy of. It made me examine my own life and decisions for evidence of "truthiness". (If that's not a word, it should be lol). The evidence was plentiful.

We are always attracting opportunities, but we only say "yes" to those which we feel worthy of. In other words, we shy away from things when we don't feel ready. (By ready, I mean feel good enough for.) That includes business opportunities, personal opportunities, even romantic partners.

We may wish for it all day long, but the test of our worthiness shows up only when we say yes.

Looking back on my own life, I can recall countless times opportunity knocked for me, almost to exact specifications of the future I'd imagined, and yet time after time I closed the door. I found excuses to say "not now".  I let my own "logic" (aka fear logic) talk me out of it. But in truth, it was the fear of not feeling ready enough, or worthy enough.

Hesitation still happens. And it will always happen - for every person on their personal path of evolution. It matters not who you are, or how big you are. The only difference being, the game is bigger and the stakes are higher. But the feeling of "am I ready for this?" is the same.

Today, when that fear pattern is in progress, here's the question I use to call out myself ..

"Would my wiser future self advise me to say yes to this?" Or, sometimes I phrase it like this: "Would my Dad, who has passed but is ever present and loving to me, advise me to say yes to this?"

Do something your future self will thank you for.

With abundance of love, xx

The Promise of a New Year

Hello Beautiful.

It is great to be back with you again. The holiday break for me was both restful and productive, and I did enjoy staying in touch with so many of you over the holidays. It was wonderful to see all of your photos of fun family times as you celebrated together. Brought me joy! I am well rested and invigorated ... woot woot!

Now here we find ourselves, at the promise of a beautiful New Year, bright, shiny and happy lol. Whatever your thoughts about resolutions, there is no denying that there is an optimism that we feel in January, as we do with every new beginning. It holds a promise that fuels hope as we dust off our long held dreams and breathe new life into them.

If that is your desire, then stick with me. This year, there will be a larger focus upon action and progress in my messages. Because I happen to think that your dreams are worthy of you. So with that in mind, let me challenge you with this ...

See Everything You Do as a Stepping Stone to Greatness.

Because no measure is too small, no act is mundane or meaningless, no step too little, if we do it with the intention of GREATNESS. Everything you do is an expression of your life energy, (which btw happens to be a miracle of epic proportions), so infuse joy and energy into your action.

When you walk, infuse it with joy.

When you talk, infuse it with enthusiasm.

When you cook, infuse it with love.

When you set goals, infuse it with commitment.

When you work, infuse it with passion.

When you leap, do it with gusto.

When you fall, do it with style.

When you fail, jump up and do it better.

Commit to your best this year. And watch, oh just watch what happens! (Get excited!)

2019 Strong, xx

 

Go Where You Know You Must Go

Hello Beautiful.

You may not realize it, but every person who has ever lived has been driven by the same purpose: to evolve. For you that means learning, growing, achieving, acquiring,expanding, pursuing, and achieving. Coded in your DNA is a "goal fulfillment mechanism" which drives you to expand your horizons. It's innate. It's why dissatisfaction creeps in whenever we find ourselves "stuck" or stagnant. Ruts do not serve us and run counter to our natural inclination.

But here's the rub - every goal you have ever wanted, including the goals you have set for this new year, exist outside of your comfort zone. They are close enough for you to imagine and claim, but far enough out of reach to make you stretch. Your comfort zone will have to expand in order to include this "new thing" you want.

Comfort zones are only expanded through discomfort. You can't get there comfortably. That means you gotta learn to tolerate discomfort! The higher your tolerance the greater your chances of success.

To be frank, the reason most people do not reach their goals is because they object to the discomfort. And I get it, I've been there. Discomfort like FEAR. Sacrificing free time. Changing habits. Saying no. Saying yes. Leaps of faith. Risk. Rejection. There is a lot of unpleasantness. But you know what? Your goal is TOTALLY worth it. And so are you.

There was a time that I thought I would NEVER have the courage to stand and speak publicly. I mean NEVER EVER EVER NEVER would I have thought that was possible for me. And my first experiences with it were brutal ... embarrassingly so. There were times following a performance that I cried because I was so disappointed. There were times that I had overwhelming stage fright and had to force myself to follow through. And do you know why I persevered? It wasn't because I had a goal of being a speaker ... it's because I had a goal of reaching people. And I was prepared to put myself through hell to get there. Well guess what? I got there. And now it is one of the greatest privileges of my life.

Push yourself this year. Do what you KNOW you must do. Go where you know you must go.

To your amazing success, xx

Put a Period at the end of an Experience

Hello Beautiful.

Have you noticed that people who struggle with relationships, have always struggled with relationships? Have you also noticed that people who are late are always late? And people who struggle with weight, money, procrastination, letting go, have always struggled with these issues?

The truth is, we are all walking, talking, breathing bundles of habits. Day in and day out, we think the thoughts we have always thought. We speak the same words. We believe the same things. We blame the same people. And we respond very very predictably to life. It's become tough to surprise people.

Sometimes that serves us. Because routines and rituals make us efficient, accountable, and reliable. All good. But too often it hurts us. Because we get caught in these perpetual loops of bad experiences like one big run on sentence. There just is no end.

I want to impress upon you today how important it is to for you to recognize the patterns in your life. Where is your consistent pain? What do you struggle with over and over? And when will enough become enough. Because it is only YOU who can change it.

The really really great news, is that you can absolutely change it. Ask yourself these 2 questions:

  1. If not now, then when? (How much longer are you prepared to live with it?)
  2. If now me, then who? (Who will change it for you?)

Put a period on the end of a pattern. Put a period on the end of an experience. And write yourself a new story. Today: do something different.

To your amazing success, xx